Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

My boyfriend of one year, who is also staying with me, refuses to add me as a "friend" on his myspace. He claims I will question his "friends" and comments that are posted and he does not want to deal with that. I feel a relationship should be open and honest and if he had nothing to hide, it wouldn't be an issue for me to see his page. I was curious of others opinions?

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

I suggest you find a way to see it. To be honest, I have seen relationships broken up because of myspace because there are girls ALL over the damn thing showing their bodies and befriending guys, flirting with them and causing the end. I know because I had a personal experience where I had to deal with that.

I recommend that you ask him straight up because you will know the truth if he staggers or hesitates, and the girls that he befriends all over myspace post naughty comments that could be sexual in nature or even seductive.

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

I know that this is not what you want to hear, but I would really worry about that. You two have been together for a year now, and should both trust one another... He should be able to trust that even if you question his "friend choices %26amp; comments" that you will still trust HIM. But the fact that he's not even letting you be a part of that world just seems sketchy. What is he really using the Myspace for? Best of luck to you %26amp; I really hope it is nothing....

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

I'd suggest that is not a technical issue, and nothing, really, to do with MySpace.

It's a relationship issue, and one that you will have to work out between you.

Either you trust him, or you don't.

Either he trusts you, or he doesn't.

Are you both making decisions based on fact.history, or guesswork?

You need to talk, or deal with it

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

I believe at this point you should trust him to make smart decisions about internet chicks but if you cant knock the feeling and you just have to know then create a false account and become his friend , start off with a friend request and a message saying "I think you are hott " or something like that to see his general response my friend did this once she did a little snooping and she found out there was nothing to worry about she deleted the account and that was that.

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

You need to chill! Everyone need their own space and privacy, even in a long-term relationship (which one year just about starts to qualify for!).

However if he feels that concerned about trusting you with that you might want to look at the bigger picture here as trust is an intrinsic part to a relationship.

You are quite right to expect an open and honest relationship and to be fair I can see his point too as I've got loads of ex's on my MySpace/facebook and that can cause issues with the 'current' so he's probably just trying to avoid all the aggro but going about it in the wrong way.

If it's really bothering you, set some time aside (not when the football is on!) and have a talk explaining exactly how you feel about it to him and hopefully he will explain where he's coming from and you two can work out a solution that makes both of you happy.

Relationships are all about compromise.

Hope this helps, and good luck!

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

Sounds like he is up to no good.

Unfortunately I am going through similar thing as you at the moment. Cut a very long story short.

I noticed my fiance on myspace the other day and said I didn't know you had a myspace, he told me he has had it for ages but never goes on it, he only went on it because a friend emailed him off it....I thought nothing of it.

A couple of days after I was on myspace and thought I would find my fiance and add him as a friend. When I found him he had some girl as a friend on there and she had left a comment calling him babe. Later that night I told him I sent him a friend request and he had a go at me saying he would not accept me as he does not use it - this is when I got suspicious.

I then decided to look at this girls profile and it was blocked unless you are a friend. I decided to make up a new profile under a different person using different email address as a fella add her so I could view her profile, she accepted my friend request, seems a total tart. Unfortunately has no posts from my fella.

You have made it sound like his profile is blocked as well so you could set up a new profile under different name as a girl and add him as a friend, see if he accepts and then you can view his profile.

Hope this helps.

Also anybody reading this who wants to judge me for doing this, don't bother like I said I have cut a long story very short so have personal reasons for doing what I did, whether or not you agree with them

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

If he has nothing to hide then he should let you look at his page and access it anytime you want. If he refuses to do this, then I would be concerned. Myspace is nothing but a meat market anymore, I have seen many lie and cheat on there. And having him delete it wouldn't solve anything either, he could start another profile under another name. My advice would be to talk to him and try and get him to understand where your coming from. Good Luck

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

Lol, a relationship arguing over something as trivial as MySpace.

What has the world come to.

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

It seems odd that someone who is willing to share his personal life with the entire world (by posting it online) is hesitant to share it with the person who he should be closest to.

Myspace is notorious for causing relationship problems, but it doesn't have to. Maybe my story will help you see the situation in a different light:

I started a Myspace page about a year ago. My boyfriend (also live-in) seemed interested, and made one for himself as well. Almost immediately, a girl he had known in high school found him through the "new classmates" feature and added him as a friend.

It didn't bother me at first, but over time, the "innocent" little comments she'd leave on his page turned into nasty little comments directed at me. Sounds immature, right... ? Believe it or not, she's 25! Ugh.

At any rate, I eventually (calmly) explained to my boyfriend that she was going too far. He re-read everything she'd written, agreed, sent her a message that said his relationship with me was more important than his friendship with her, and took her off of his friends list. He gave me his password and told me to feel free to check his messages any time I doubted him.

He proposed a couple of months later, and to this day, I'm still #1 on his friends list. :)

I'm so proud of the way that he handled the situation... I didn't ask him to do any of it, which makes me feel that he really cares about my feelings, and proves that he has nothing to hide.

I would suggest CALMLY explaining your situation to him. Tell him that you would love nothing more than to give him the #1 spot on your friends list, because you're proud of him and want everyone on your friends list to see what a great guy you have.

Don't accuse him of hiding anything... just emphasize how much it would mean to you; turn it around, and tell him that if he lets you in to that little bit of his world, it will prove to you that HE can trust YOU... to not complain about comments from females and such.

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

Its possible that he uses it to cheat....... SLIMEBALL either way! Best of luck.

Boyfriend hiding MySpace?

Create a new myspace. But don't use it as your own. Pretend you are someone else and add him as a friend. Look and see if anything is offensive and confront him about it.